2 children 11 hours

salam,
just a simple experience yet experiencing it is priceless. at least, i got to experience what my sister has to go through throughout her journey as a mother to two little bunnies. owh so not easy, that's the only thing i could say.

'you will never know the hardships, loves, cares and all the noble feelings of a mother to her children until you become one'

taking care of the two little siblings are not easy i should say. not easy for me but not to their parents. their kids and once u have babies, the extra loves and cares hormones will be excreted. that's what differentiate the lve from the parents and anyone else. a new fact by me.hihi. but thats what i can see. my sister, no matter how big the tantrum the two little munchkins throw, she just can manage it. cool and relax. no pinching or punching scenes. hugs and kisses only okay. terrific. only now i believe, the power of mother's love. the mother instincts. i have experimented it on my nieces and my nephews..haha.

i'm blessed, little aliyah has never been on tantrums. not even once since the day i first takes charge of my sis's sil's job as nanny.haha. at least, she gives me a wonderful experience of taking care a cool baby. same goes to my sis's lil hero, mr shakir. he's not a kind of tantrum boy yet a hardworking one. haha. ironically, if you need any helper, u can just straighly call my sis. haha. he can turn your tidy house into a very merry neat house. hihi. not a joke but this is serious. haha..part of his development. haha.thats what his mother said .look, how cool my sister can be. for me, i have a reason to look a bit tension.haha. cz i'm not yet married and having babies. the extra loves, cares, understandings hormones are not yet excreted.haha. but for what yelling at kids. they know nothing. if we get angry, pinching n yelling etc at them, it means, we're on a state of stress or any emotional problems. a rational human will mever ever yell at kids. no matter how naughty they are, face it calmly and maturedly.

often i see in the public places esp supermarket, parents torture their own kids. reasons: misbehave, demand of this and that, tantrums n etc. i dunno you but for me myself, never at once in my kiddy life i experience any kind of torture in the public. i believe in th way my parents mold me and my other sisters. soft and relax yet tegas. so as the way my sister mold her children. misbehave= punishment but please not in the public. demanding= who teaches them to be demanding? kids will never do things they dun use to.

enough talking about motherly thingy..err. just an opinion based on my observations.

congratulations and lots of appreciations to my dear mother and sisters for successfully go through all the ups and downs since they are officially become a mother esp my mother. a mother to seven. a grandmother to four plus four. a wife to a handsome man, mr Ismail.hihi. she has been both, a working and a stay at home mother to seven. seven isnt a small number back then but now, my mum said , seven isnt enough. why? it seems like too fast for her perhaps. too fast we grow. leaving the house for the sake of our futures. whenever she said so i feel like crying yet i cant do anything coz she is the one who really wants to see us succeed in whatever us in. my father too. well, man! they will never say out their feelings. hurm, man's nature. hard to break through yet you can see it through their eyes and the way your father acts.

Thinking of all these make me feel 'hah, motherhood life is so not easy and scary'.

Simpan dulu perasaan nak kahwin. The younger generations these days never think of the life after marriage including me. Kahwin memang seronok. The life after marriage will define you the real happiness. First is married life. Followed by the parenthood life.

Are you all ready to

1) educate your next generations
2) facing all the ups and downs and the challengings of the parenthood life.


Grrr. Think of all these before you could simply said 'saya nak kahwin sangat2'.

Be a role model
Parenting skills.
Managing tantrums.
Understanding others' needs and demands
Working
Cooking
Socialising
Having new famiy members
Extra problems despite the happiness
Sharing
Etc

Lesson learnt...
Countless lessons learnt.
Always be prepared for a better future.
There's no way to avoid yet there'll always be a better way to face it all.
It starts from a phrase 'early preparation'.