salam,
hehe. catchy tak topic di atas? for 'teenager' like me who's not yet married and still waiting for my turn, this topic might be catchy. this is one of the most popular discussion/chit-chatting/gossiping topics in my class and even during discussion. we can drag and stretch it until more than two hours. hot! this is serious. you don't have to lie at me. i know it coz i'm still a teenager though at this age, you can call me 'remaja terlajak' but do you think i care? haha.
that's not the purpose i'm here today.
these days, early marriage has became a popular trend. should i call it a trend or what not. no, i'm not saying it's a bad trend. it's a good trend actually. a good trend to follow. marriage is sunnah. there should be no reasons to say no when you're capable enough to practice the sunnah or in a short and sweet phrase, when your time comes.
kalau diri ini kata tak teringin, cubit saya kuat-kuat.
that's what we call psychological need. to be loved.
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i was at a supermarket near to my college. that was not my first time seeing a young couple with baby. they looked so young and fragile. the wife was walking behind the husband carrying the infant. she looked like a secondary school teenager. the husband was wearing jeans and simpan ekor kat belakang. dye rambut sikit. same goes to his wife.
be positive syahira! hehe
for some reasons, i pity the infant. she'll grow up with her/his growing parents. they' ll grow up together. in the process of growing up, babies and toddlers will tend to pick up their parents life style, words and almost everything. what if they pick up the negative ones. hurm.
going through a few stages in life, i just couldn't deny the importance of a good role model in the family. children and teenagers are the two groups of human with the high level of curiosity. the wanna know something new. they wanna try something new, challenging things. as long as it's challenging, they will love it too bits.
that's not their fault nor their parents fault. it's the society's fault. the mass media's fault.
but why? put on your thinking cap! and think..why am i blunt enough to drag the society and mass media in a small family problem? there must be some reasons. pikiaqla. saya pun tak tahu but what can i say is it's not only one sided fault.
early marriage itself is good. but how to take care and build a good family when the parents themselves are not capable to be the role models.
browsing through the face book news feed just now and reading a wall post posted by one of the moderators for
seminar baitul muslim. i'd be proud enough to share her words. she said
'don't wait for the right person, be the right person'.
a little bit of improvement by me,
be the right person not only to get the right person but for the sake of your future little caliphs. they're indeed a part of your shadow.
faham x? kalau tak faham, buat-buat faham la.
i'm not against the
early marriage but thing that i would like to emphasize here is 'know your aim and set the right aim'.
the sweetness of marriage will never last long if the aim is wrong and against the principle of Islam.
know your reason before you proceed into a risky yet wonderful life; marriage.
till then,
sis