girls talk and ala-ala advice

salam,

isu 1: kahwin

it was a normal chit chatting when suddenly, a friend of mine who is very very soon going to get married came and joined us.

A: berseri serinya (xtipu!!!!..memang berseri)
B: (merah muka)
C: dh ready ke semua?
B: ntahl. not that easy.
C: pening kepala x?
B: opkos
A: mana cari  duit nak kahwin ni?
B: simpan
C: is it enough?
B: nope. so many things to do.
C: how about the ...............(curious)

its normal to have the curiosity. normal for kids like us. haha. she has gone one step further and maju from us. seriously! she looks matured. marriage makes us matured? or the ups and downs of planning to get married makes my friend looks matured. huhu. there comes the curiosity. oh well! its pretty normal for those who has not been into that stage to start thinking of that wasting of time questions.

having a conversation with the one who's getting married makes me realize of something and it opens my eyes. i should stop dreaming of getting married at this age lah. its not easy to make the decision to get married. the preparation is far more not easy. the engagement period is the most difficult test ever in life.

marriage does not only need us to have a stable income but also a stable state of thinking.
 a matured thinking. a complex thinking. the ability to think critically and wisely. the ability to walk in the spouse's shoes. the ability to accept advice. the ability to always be patient.the ability to control emotions when the money is getting lesser and lesser dalam bank coz everything is not cheap these days unless it happens to be you get a stable partner. oopppsss, i nearly forget this one. the ability to cook. haha. this is the most highlighted issue in our conversation. do you know how to cook? yupp. tapi makanan kampung je. that's what my friend replied. we replied " xpela, kami nak pi kelas memasak dulu la before thinking about marriage".

i personally think, marriage is not all about happiness. its all about a roller coaster life. some said "kalau nak tunggu ready sampai bila-bila pun xready". hurm. that's also correct. but, the time will come, when the time come, we will not no longer think about the readiness coz at that time, we'll be naturally ready. just like my friend. chayok2x

marriage is a very big issue now. here and there, everyone's talking about that here and there. except me lah..hahah. knowing the reality makes me feel like " i wanna stop growing for a while and enjoy my teenage life"....dolu-dolu, masa sekolah menengah, the main issue is "what field would you like to choose?"

dear syahira,
"read this post if you feel envy+jelous tengok sorang-sorang kawan kahwin" =D