I remember reading a motivational book, Men are from mars, women are from venus. It's a motivational book to improve communications between mars and venus. I don't know how efficient it could be and how far it could leave the impact on a relationship coz i never finish reading the book though i've tried so many times.At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet -Plato -
tapi sebenarnya, i'm not gonna talk about the book.
my main intention is to share what is in the inner side of me.
marriage is not easy. marriage needs thousands of sacrifices and sometimes, one side has to sacrifice more than the other side. In the end, the burden will make the one who sacrifices more explode. hehe. i've seen it and i'm scared. right now, i shall believe myself that i'm not ready for that. i need more knowledge and i need to learn how to build a sturdy patient wall so i won't be the one who explodes even if i'm the one who has to sacrifice more.
anyway, two days ago, i broke my own record. BRIDESMAID. haha. yes! someone asked me to be her 'bidan terjun' bridesmaid. i never dreamed or imagined of being one even though my sisters will get married sooner. when my sister told me about it, i was like errr. i just laughed coz i couldn't believe what i just heard. she asked me a close question, which meant the answer must be either yes or no. however, i knew that i actually was not given any choices other than yes. so, i replied 'aku hentam ja la'.
the bride asked me to wear dark turqoise. i just nodded though i never owned any dark turqoise formal attire except for a dress. Lucky, my younger sister reminded me about my third sister's engagement kurung. without further thinking, i decided to wear the kurung since it looked a little bit special due to its shining outer garments. i chose to wear with my rainbow tudung.
my sister said, "you're not the one who's getting married, so just relax and wear whatever you think suitable and ready". tapi nasihat tak jalan. that's my first time experience. ofcourse, i felt nervous.
my cousin in law reminded me to do all sorts of things for our princess of the day. i needed to hold her phone.i needed to remind her when it's time to go for the second make up/dress up session. being me, i just told her that i'm not used to the situation and i didn't know how to use the bride's phone .haha. she had to teach me how to use the bride's phone and told me about the flow of the wedding ceremony. oh man! if i still had a choice, i would choose to give up and let them find someone else. haha. i'd never had any experience of using smart phone except my sisters' phone. ish. rasa terhina gila. bukan jakun. haha
it's not easy to be a bridesmaid but i enjoyed. at least, they gave me a new experience which was priceless and unforgettable. i had to accompany the brides to touch up her make up and dress up for wedding ceremony as soon as after the akad.
all in all, i felt blessed and proud for having such opportunity though they were my trial pack.
a little bit of reminder from a former bridesmaid. make sure you think wisely before you hire your make up artist or whatever related to your wedding so at least, you could help her to reduce the burdens on the others. wasn't it a crazy thing when you have to travel about 15 minutes (excluded the traffic jam)? going there just for 'make up' and 'dress up'. it's a waste of time. why don't you arrange so that the make up artist could come to your house instead of you, the bride and the groom, move from a place to another.
one more, for the future or soon to be bridegrooms, please be a responsible man. how to manage a family and be a leader when you can't even show respect and be a responsible man in a reality life. it always happened. the future husband was too relax and cool and left everything about his own wedding only to his future other half. not every man but most. so far, i'd found more than one. that's enough to make me feel scared.
nah, the only photo that i asked my cousin to capture. i didn't even have photo with the bride and groom. so sad. lucky, they hired the photographer.
we slept at three, we woke up at five. that could be a strong reason why my eye backs was so clear.
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| sitting in the middle of the heart shape bench. |
oopss, congratulations to mt dear cousin, kak anis and her other half, abang faiz. May Allah grant happiness and long lasting relationship until the eternal world for both of you. May Allah grant both of you beautiful and pious offspring
next week will be my sisters turn. let'spray for a smooth sailing journey to the wedding.
eh. suddenly i remember a quote from my fb friend's wall, she said for what we are focusing more on the wedding when the one that is more important is the marriage. :)
#qanaah#
toodles!
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